Dawn Nocera

Tag: Self-Appreciation

  • 5 Appreciation Friday

    5 Appreciation Friday

    What I’m Appreciating

    Here is a dose of “5-Appreciation Friday,” a brief-ish list of what I’m appreciating this week.

    #5AppreciationFriday

    1.  What I’m appreciating about myself –
    I am appreciating that I am diving into the work of self-appreciation around shame.  It’s one of my life lessons according to my good friend and hand analyst Pamelah Landers (who I deeply appreciate as a mentor and friend).    I appreciate that I can feel the shame around feeling stupid or unintelligent.  I appreciate myself for taking a risk and writing about it in a blog post this week.  Mostly I appreciate myself for seeing the wisdom in feeling the shame as opposed to numbing it out and acting as if it doesn’t exist.

    2.  Quote I’m appreciating, once again – 

    “What you resist, persists.” C. G.  Jung

    3.  Activation I’m appreciating –
    I’m appreciating the activation of Galactic Goddess Energy and the mindful awareness of what that energy feels like for me.  I’m appreciating that I am honoring the time it takes to translate the energy of the soul into words for my clients.  I am grateful that I receive a new activation with each new session.  I’m appreciating myself for doing my own inner work by deeply appreciating each activation as it becomes known to me.   I’m appreciating myself for practicing the Sacred-Art of Self-Appreciation with the Galactic Goddess Energy that was activated this week.  It is such a powerful energy to experience and it carries some deep wisdom about being both connected to everything and unattached all at the same time.   Oh, I love the work I do and the activations of the people who feel called to work with me.   View this week’s Activation I’m appreciating.

     

    4.  Family I’m appreciating –
    I’m appreciating myself that “I took my grandma shopping on Monday. She is 95. She gave me this picture. Yes, that is me in the middle. My grandma was 2 years older than I am now in this picture.  I love my grandparents. I wish my grandpa could have seen all of his great grandchildren. He would have loved them all!”  I’m also appreciating my social family that connected on Facebook.

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    5.   SASA Practice I’m appreciating –
    Who wouldn’t appreciate how cute I am as a baby in the picture!  I appreciate knowing that I came into this world to activate both True Wealth and Honesty & Truth.  I’m appreciating myself as a baby, without anything that I need to do or say.   I’m appreciating myself for being born and for activating wealth and truth before I could even talk or walk.

    If you want to connect to your activation code and your soul’s purpose,  consider scheduling an Activation Code Reading Session here.  

  • There is a new luminary in the world today and it’s you.

    You Are the Luminary the World Has Been Waiting For

    There’s a new light shining in the world today, and it’s you.

    Your presence, your journey, your wisdom—they all matter. You are transforming the world simply by being yourself. As you share your light, you are activating others and stepping into the role of a luminary leader, inspiring the kind of change only you can bring. Imagine traveling the world, doing what you love, spending time with the people who mean the most to you, and building a soul-aligned business that continues to expand your impact.

    This isn’t just a dream. This is for you.

    Are You an Emerging Luminary Leader, Coach, or Messenger?

    If you’re here, you’re in the right place.

    Every single person carries a unique genius—a combination of gifts that only they can share with the world. While some people are born knowing their brilliance, others discover their value along the way. Either way, your light is needed.

    You feel it, don’t you? That knowing deep inside that you’re here for more. You want to embody your soul’s highest purpose, step fully into your genius, and create something extraordinary. You crave a community of conscious, like-minded luminaries who are committed to personal growth and planetary transformation.

    At the same time, you long for guidance—a mentor who can help you decode the language of your soul, align with your highest self, and unlock your potential. Together, we can expand your ability to receive abundance, clarity, and joy in every area of your life.

    I help luminaries like you step into your divine design and embrace ease, flow, and expansion.

    What I Appreciate About You

    You are remarkable. Let me tell you why:

    1. Your Self-Awareness is Next-Level
      You’ve journeyed far to realize that you are whole just as you are. You understand that deeper self-awareness is the key to fulfilling your calling, and you embrace that truth wholeheartedly.
    2. You Love Growth
      You’re not afraid to reflect, question, and grow. The strength it takes to sit with the big questions—like “Who am I?”—is something I deeply admire about you.
    3. You Know When to Ask for Support
      You’ve learned to recognize when you feel disconnected from abundance, and you seek guidance before the struggle becomes overwhelming. I love your openness to creating an easier, more aligned path.
    4. You Embody Spirituality
      Your connection to the divine flows through every area of your life. Even in struggles, you find meaning and lean into the emergence of something greater.
    5. You Face Your Dragons
      Whether it’s shadow work, emotional healing, or overcoming fears, you’re not afraid to do the inner work. You navigate these challenges with authenticity and compassion, emerging stronger every time.
    6. You’re Building Your Legacy
      You’re sharing your unique gifts, creating your own community, and shining your light in ways that inspire and transform others. The ripple effect of your work is extraordinary.
    7. You Choose Creativity Over Competition
      You understand that celebrating others’ success amplifies your own. Collaboration, connection, and mutual support are your guiding principles.
    8. You Trust Your Intuition
      You approach coaching and mentorship from a grounded, inspired place. You value intuitive guidance and align with what feels right for your path, and that makes our work together so powerful.

    A Sacred Partnership in Growth

    What I love most about working with luminaries like you is the mutual appreciation we share. You honor your soul’s journey and the work you’ve already done. You approach your spiritual practice with devotion, and you recognize the transformational power of self-appreciation.

    When you’re ready to step into your next level of expansion, I’m here to guide you—not as someone who tells you what to do, but as a partner who holds space for you to realize your fullest potential.

    You are a force of light, a creator of beauty, and a beacon for transformation. I deeply appreciate the work you do in the world and the impact you’re making every day.

    The world needs your brilliance.

  • What’s The Difference Between Self-Love & Self-Appreciation

    What’s The Difference Between Self-Love & Self-Appreciation

    By Dawn Nocera

    Have you ever stopped to think about the difference between self-love and self-appreciation?  

    I thought it would be a good idea to share the subtle differences in today’s post.  

    A friend asked me about my recent Sacred Art of Self-Appreciation Retreat.

    As the conversation went on, she asked me, “What is the difference between self-love and self-appreciation?”

    She felt that she loved herself and yet she had a feeling that there was something different between the two.

    The conversation reminded me of another one within a group of mine.

    Here is a part of that conversation:

    Q:  “So, question, what is the difference between self-appreciation and self-love? I am drawn to write what I LOVE about myself rather than what I appreciate about myself. It feels deeper or more intense, or even more committed to me.
    Does that work for folks if I stay with love over appreciation?”  – Isabel P

    My response:  “Do what MOVES you to depths of YOU, Isabel. Most people throw the word “love” around as a way to escape their deepest feelings.

    I just LOVE Sushi. Really I do! I’m committed to eating it as often as possible. I love it! When we use the word “    appreciate”, we are committed to seeing the VALUE in it. So when I say, “I appreciate sushi.” I mean, “I see the value of sushi in my life. I really value the way it makes me feel. I value the sensuality of every bite I eat and how sensual I feel after eating a nice sushi meal. I see the value of eating protein that is clean in the way I feel after eating sushi.” When you can feel the value of being you, it can bring you to tears.

    Even gratitude misses the mark for most people. It encourages people to look outside of themselves for the value in their lives. (I had a daily practice of gratitude for 10 years, I’m speaking from my truth.) Appreciation is a practice of seeing the VALUE in yourself.

    It feels so weird to write “I appreciate myself.” I encourage you to give the word “appreciation” some attention try it for a week and see if you notice the difference. Appreciation also has a funny & natural way of revealing our blocks and limitations so we can deal with them when we are in a very positive self-loving vibe. Don’t take my word for it.”

    Her Response:  “Sure, I will give that a try . . . I have being doing a kind of self-journalling. My goal is to deepen my love and enthusiasm for who I am.”

    I encouraged her to do both and see if she feels the difference between the two.  Isabel is light years ahead of most people.  She mentioned that she journaled daily about the many ways she loves herself.  She has been journaling  before she ever knew of me or Self-Appreciation.

    It takes a lot of inner strength and vulnerability to share your strengths openly.   The ego has a hard time staying in control of someone who really does love and appreciate themselves.

    My friend and I talked about how most people think they love themselves, and yet they act in unloving and self-abusive ways.

    One of the biggest reasons I am the pied piper of self-appreciation is because I intimately know it’s opposites, self-judgment and self-abuse.  They show up in so many dysfunctional ways.   If you’ve heard me speak in person, on a webinar, or on an interview, I talk more about this.

    The Limits of “Love”

    The unfortunate truth about self-love is that it is limited by our ability to receive or give unconditional love outside of ourselves.  It is limited by our understanding of what love is based on our experiences, and the environments we grew up in.  We even get comfortable saying, “I love you!” without meaning or feeling anything at all when we say it.  I know I have.  I’ve used, “I love this!,” as a way of expressing excitement without taking the time to feel the depths of love I have for it.

    Love IS a Commitment.    

    Think about this for a minute.  When you say, “I love you.” you are committing to someone and for most people that commitment comes with a subtle feeling of fear that you might lose the person you love someday!    And that feeling of fear of losing love can push people away or keep us from deeply feeling how much we appreciate (feel the difference) the time we do have together.

    People who are afraid of doing the work of self-appreciation are ultimately afraid of the depths of their own emotions.  They mistakenly believe that they will have to dig up their dirt and dive deep into the shadow in order to truly appreciate themselves.  It is really not necessary.

    It is the feeling that expands us most that matters.  Those are the feelings that let us know who we really are.  Deep feelings that seem to touch the very soul of who we are.

    When we say we love something, we are in a state of ‘comforting acceptance’ of what is when we would be better served by furthering the journey and diving deep into the work of self-appreciation.

    Change Is The Domain of Self-Appreciation

    When we appreciate ourselves we change.  It is inevitable.  I don’t know anyone who has truly done the work of self-appreciation and hasn’t experienced a profound transformation.  And from what I can tell the fear of change is what keeps most people from doing “the WORK” of self-appreciation.  Here are some of the changes people fear:

    • They will be less ambitious and in turn less successful if they make self-appreciation a priority.
    • They will lose the people they love.  Somehow they will change and the ones they love will be ‘left behind.’
    • They are afraid they will have to go dig up the trash of their past in order to appreciate their future.
    • They are afraid they will waste time learning how to appreciate themselves.
    • They are afraid people will find out that they aren’t already self-loving.  “Hey, look how successful I am, it is obvious I love myself!”
    • They are afraid to be vulnerable in public; it is so scary and such a huge risk to their reputation! (Did I mention that vulnerability is a HUGE piece of self-appreciation?)
    • They are afraid  if their ego loses its power they will fail, or have to move backwards.
    • They are afraid that no one will understand what all this self-appreciation stuff is all about and they will be more lonely than ever before!
    • This list is endless…

    Here Is WHY Self-Appreciation is So Transformative

    When you appreciate yourself you create a safe environment around you where transformation can easily happen.

    Self-Appreciation is about recognizing the value you add to the world and as you appreciate yourself your value increases and so does your vibrational frequency!  Self-appreciation is the only way I know of to transmute the energy of lower vibrations that keep people stuck in old habits and beliefs to higher and more sustainable vibrations that offer more freedom and expansion.

    Self-Love = Acceptance
    Self-Appreciation = EXPANSION!

    Together they are a very powerful team.

    To participate in the next Self-Appreciation Challenge go here.

  • Stop Trying To Figure This Out

    Stop Trying To Figure This Out

    Dearest Luminary Entrepreneur,  The hardest thing you’ll ever do is to stop trying to fix it. (whatever “it” is.) There is nothing to fix, or figure out. Your expansion and alignment come from being at peace with where you are. Feel yourself feel those feelings. Transmute the thoughts of “I should be farther along than this!” to “Look how far I’ve come!”

    Please, stop trying to figure out what is wrong with you. There is NOTHING wrong with you. I appreciate you. The only work you need to do is appreciate yourself. And when the ego says, “I could never do that!” That is when you dive deep and learn to appreciate yourself the most. In ALL of my years of learning, praying, growing, studying, mastering the mind, writing, then teaching, and training, and coaching, and speaking, and creating, NOTHING has made as big of an impact on my life than the work of self-appreciation. This is not just true for me, it is true for the people I’ve shared the sacred art of self-appreciation with. You can’t own your greatness until you accept and appreciate yourself where you are.

    There is a lot of talk about ‘gratitude,’ however I’ve found that gratitude misses the mark for me and I practed gratitude (still do to some extent) consistently for 10 years. Gratitude says, “Thanks for being in my life. I like having you here.” Appreciation says, “I see the VALUE in your presence in my life. I get you. You increase who I am.” Discovering the value of yourself is the work of self-appreciation. You don’t see it all at once, however when you practice appreciating yourself daily, through writing, sharing with others how you appreciate yourself, you release all of the “shoulds” in your life and you find your authentic desires. The law of desire sets in an you can’t help but grow with more ease and grace. You have more faith in your direction, a clearer mind, an open heart, and you become aware that everything you’ve been looking for is right there inside of you all the time.

    I hear you asking for help to find what is broken in you. The only thing that is broken is your ability to love and appreciate yourself.

    You think your abilty to manifest is broken? No, just your ability to appreciate yourself. You think your confidence is broken? No, just your ability to authentically appreciate yourself. You think your relationship is broken? No, just your ability to appreciate yourself. You think your finances are broken? Appreciate yourself!   YOU are your point of attraction. YOU are the center of YOUR universe. YOU are the light you seek. YOU are not and never have been broken.

    I know there is nothing I can do to convince you that BIG changes come from this simple practice. You just have to try it for yourself. And let me know how the work of self-appreciation works for you.