Category: Life Coaching

  • Are You Asking for Clarity?

    Are You Asking for Clarity?

    Have you been asking for clarity about something in your life?  Do you just want to know HOW to do something or HOW it will turn out?

    Seriously, I am cured of asking for clarity!

    I can’t tell you how often I’ve affirmed clarity..  “I write with clarity and purpose.”

    “I easily receive clarity about this project.”

    “LORD, give me Clarity!”

    Well, I am finished!

    The moment I heard my minister say,
    “You’ve been asking for clarity when you should be asking for trust!”  I knew he was talking to me.

    Some days are like that, you wake up and you are so aligned that you know everything you hear is a message for you and for your personal growth.  Those are the days when I’m aligned with the Divine, aligned with my path and aligned with myself.

    Lately, I have to admit, I’ve been…waiting!

    Waiting for what?

    Waiting for clarity.  Clarity for what?  Well, EVERYTHING!

    It’s not that I really stopped trusting the Divine, trusting myself and trusting my path, because that is not totally true.  I do trust that I am tuned in tapped in turned on.   However, my focus sort of wanders into the future.  And not the kind of wandering that says, “Hey dream big!  This is what is possible for you!”  It starts with one simple thought of doubt, then another and before I know it I am questioning my direction.  “Lord give me clarity!”

    Sunday’s message was the one I needed to remind me, “Your course is already set.  You have a destination to reach.  You only need to trust in yourself and trust in your alignment with the Divine.  Just trust.”

    I really didn’t get the fullness of that message until I shared it with  client,   “You are asking for clarity when you should be asking for more trust.”

    And I got it.

    Think about it.

    Clarity is a powerful tool to create or cast a vision of where you want to go.  It sets the entire universe into motion to bring you opportunity after opportunity so you can manifest the vision and take the next natural step.  Clarity makes everything easier.

    Clarity is the opposite of what you want to ask for when you are ON your path.

    Asking for clarity is like saying, “Show me HOW I am supposed to do this!”

    Here is your gentle reminder for the day, “HOW is not your business!”

    Once you create a clear vision of where you are going, the path will show up, one step at a time.  Ask for more TRUST, not more clarity.  Ask for trust in divine timing.  Ask for TRUST that you will be ready for the next step.  Ask for TRUST that Grace is leading the way.  This is especially important for luminaries who know they are being lead by a vision that is much bigger than they can imagine.

    When you trust that the future WILL meet and exceed your wildest dreams, you enter a magical world of hope, possibility, and co-creation at it’s best.

    Your path will be shown, but sometimes you have to trust that it will show up while you take the next first step.

    Remember the scene where Indiana Jones stepped onto an invisible bridge?   He really had to trust that the bridge was going to show up.   If I ask for clarity after following my intuition to take the next step,  be shown a long winding road that might get me to my dreams eventually.  However if I trust that the road is there and I trust in myself and my ability to move forward with my talents and gifts then… I might cross an invisible bridge!

    So I won’t be asking for clarity anymore, and if I do, I’ll have this blog post to remind me to ask for trust.   I will seek my freedom through trusting myself, trusting my path and trusting my connection to my intuition.

    Trusting myself to get to my destination is way more empowering than waiting for clarity.

    Enjoy the day!

  • So What Do You Want?

    So What Do You Want?

    The One Question You Need to Ask Yourself Often, “So What Do I Want?”

    Life is wonderful! The kids are back in school and my time is truly mine for the first time in 11 years. Up until now, I have been working early mornings, late nights, and have had a few coaching calls during the day when I could count on an hour of peace here and there. Now that I have all this free time, I needed to ask myself this one question before moving forward, “So, what do I want?” For me it is simple, I want to help as many people achieve their goals as possible in the most efficient manner possible. This one question sets my course.

    But what happens when you don’t know what you want?

    Get busy deciding what you do want! One of the reasons why many people don’t get what they want is because they haven’t defined it. There are so many options out there, it is a wonder we can make up our mind about anything. Many people don’t make up their mind, they let other people decide for them! Don’t let this happen to you, be decisive. Practice making decisions by asking yourself honestly, “What do I want?”

    Switch your focus from what you don’t want to what you do want.

    Most of the time when people are in a negative state of mind or not feeling up to par, they have been focusing on what they don’t want more than on what they do want. Stop for a moment and ask yourself, “How do I feel?” If you feel good, you are probably focusing on what you want. Congratulations!

    If you feel bad, you might want to make a shift and focus on what you want.

    Get Clear on What You Want

    Getting clear on what you want from life is a process. It requires you to know yourself more deeply than your current understanding. I have included a journaling exercise that should help you get clear on what you want in the major areas of your life, that way, you will know where you are heading and feel good along the way!

    EXERCISE:
    Get your journal or a blank sheet of paper and at the top write “Finances” and draw a line down the middle. At the top of one side write, “I Don’t’ Want” and on the top of the other side write, “I Do Want.” and just write. Write everything that comes to your mind about what you don’t like and about what you do like. When you are finished with it, take your “Don’t Want’s” and turn them into “Do Wants”. For example, if you wrote, “I don’t want to retire broke,” cross it out and write, “I do want to retire financially free.” The goal is to have a long list of things you do want. “I want a net worth of…” “I want to buy a…”

    Now that you have done it with your finances, write your wants for your relationships, your environment, your work/career, your service to others, and don’t forget your body.

    Spend time getting to know what you want from life and watch in amazement as those things start appearing in your life!